The Lo-Tov of Being Alone

downloadThe phrase that’s come to dominate the push for same-sex marriage is a welcome one. It’s “Love Wins.” It’s a good phrase, with roots in the Old Testament, and it’s a big part of how we hear Jesus and the Apostle Paul. It means that the central Bible commandments are love commandments. It means that two consenting adults who love each other should have the opportunity to marry.

Here’s another meme I’d like to see circulating. No one should have to be alone. OK, I admit, this doesn’t have the panache of “Love Wins,” but at least this answers a principle argument made by many opponents of same-sex marriage. This argument is that the Bible requires marriage to be between one man and one woman. In many cases, this argument is based on Genesis 2:24:

Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Genesis 2:24 is important to Jews because it’s in our Torah. The verse is important to Christians for this same reason, and also because Jesus repeats it:

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Reach Out of the Darkness

I knew a man that I did not care for

And then one day this man gave me a call

We sat and talked about things on our mind

And now this man he is a friend of mine.[1]

Friend and Lover, Reach Out of the Darkness



I have been laying low for the past week or so, watching the Sturm und Drang in the aftermath of the Obergefell decision legalizing same-sex marriage in the United States. Oddly enough, it has me thinking of my 6th grade math textbook.

I think it was 6th grade. We were far enough into math so that the problems we had to solve required reasoning, and had to be performed in steps. Remember? “Two trains leave stations 450 miles apart and travel towards each other …” Lucky me! My teacher accidentally issued me a teacher’s copy of our math textbook, one with the answers in the back of the book. I guess I wasn’t particularly honest, because I held onto that book for a while, even though I knew I wasn’t supposed to have it. But I guess I wasn’t completely dishonest either, because for the first few weeks I didn’t copy my homework answers from the back of the book. Knowing the answers were there was enough for me. It gave me a certain confidence.

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